An extremely simple thought
Identity is misconstrued, we are not speaking the identity, we are being driven, something drives us and we are escapist. I know the angle, the angle you are thinking from, and here is my one, it is classical, classical in sense as I think it is, it is the virtue.
Suddenly it feels so important looking bare at this virtue and after a few minutes the fake residing identity kills the virtue, your own virtue and it all lefts you with no real. It is a life long practice to always think about reminding yourself about your own virtues, it is as important as to have a virtue.